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Monthly Archives: January 2015

It’s been a busy holiday season here! I’ve got a back load of books so hopefully there will be a review a week in order to get caught up. I also need to get my New Year’s resolutions written out. I’ve started that post but didn’t get back to you.

The Brickmaker’s Bride by: Judith Miller

Ewan McKay immigrated to the US with his uncle in search of a better life. Uncle Hugh purchases the brickyard from a Civil War widow and her daughter, Laura. Laura helps Ewan with the initial operations of the brickyard. The two feel connected but Laura is being courted by a lawyer with political aspirations. Unfortunately when Uncle Hugh makes a poor business deal, Ewan faces losing everything he’s worked hard to achieve.

I truly enjoyed this book. It wasn’t particularly fast paced but it kept me interested. The story is filled with rich characters who draw you in. I will admit that I’m sucker for a book that helps teach you as you read. In this book, the reader get’s insights to the brickmaking process. In my opinion, this demonstrates the author’s research and understanding of the book’s premise and also adds depth to the book.

This book had several recurring themes. One of those being ethical business practices. Uncle Hugh was a difficult man who didn’t think through to the future and rushed into business. He tended to be quick to anger and quicker to push-off blame. Another theme was trusting in God and God’s timing. Ewan practiced patience and waiting when dealing with Uncle Hugh and becoming partner in the business. Laura waiting on God’s timing in waiting on the right husband. This book also looked at the discrimination immigrants, especially Irish immigrants, faced when first coming to this country.

I have very little negative to say about the book. The writing style is easy to follow and enjoyable, the research added richness to the book, and the characters added authenticity. The length of the book was good, maybe a touch on the longer side but I don’t think there was anyway to shorten it. The end change in Uncle Hugh’s personality was a bit to quick. It felt a bit unbelievable. I think that could’ve been handled a bit differently.

Overall this book was very good and quite enjoyable.

I give this book a 4.5 out of 5 bookends.

I did receive this book for free from Bethany House Publishing for an honest review.


Last night our school had a fundraiser at a local restaurant. I took my daughter and we met one of her friends and her mom. The place was busy and noisy. The girls were giggly, loud, and squirmy. The service was slow as expected due to a great turn out for the fundraiser. Despite having to reel the girls in a few times, we all had a good time. Then it came time to leave. My daughter knows we don’t go running out of a store and towards the parking lot. I’ve reinforced her the need to stay close to me. However, last night all the excitement had gotten to her and I was a little worn out and tired from the day. She and her friend took off running out of the door and toward the parking lot. I yelled gently at my daughter and she kept running. So, I yelled firmly using her whole name. I rushed to her because she was running to far for my comfort zone. I immediately scolded her for her behavior.

Her punishment was to get into the car while I and her friend’s mom finished our conversation. We were trying to plan a time that we could get together next with the girls. After I finished the conversation and helped my daughter find her missing doll, I reconfirmed to her that I loved her very much but her behavior was inappropriate. I told her that her actions were not safe and even if we were having fun we had to be safe and listen.

And then the tears came. Huge crocodile tears were pouring down her cheeks. She was upset and sad that she’d disappointed me. She was embarrassed she’d gotten in trouble in front of her friend. She felt very, very bad for be disobedient (her words). And then my heart broke. Even this morning she said to me she was so sorry for last night.I reassured her we all make mistakes and that I loved her so much.

She is my sensitive one. She is the one who likes to push the limits a bit. I knew she was sensitive but I still scolded her harshly. I felt horrible. I wanted the lesson to be taught, but was I too hard? Had I let the situation with her behavior go to far all night that I was at my frustration point? How can I keep that from happening again. I felt like the worst mom ever.

I’m certain I’m not the only one that’s been there. Said something to their child either a little to harsh, handled things poorly or reacted without thinking. We all make mistakes. Despite wanting to tear myself up over this, I will not. I will take it as a learning lesson. I will have a better in plan in place before we do our next friend’s outing.

In fact, I already know what I will do before next time. 1) I will tell her ahead of time of the expected behavior 2) I will tell her she will hold my hand when leaving the store/restaurant/etc as we normally do.

I know I’ll stumble as I continue down this parenting path. New things and situations will come up. I will make more mistakes but I will learn from them. I find ways to move forward and to do things better the next time.

How have handled a parenting mistake or when you’ve over reacted? I’d love to hear from you!

 

 

 

Proverbs 9:9 Give instruction to a wise man and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.